The New Rules of Marriage - Terrence Real

This book will change the way that you navigate relationships in all areas of your life and as I find myself re-reading and returning to this book, I continue to discover new golden nuggets every time. My boundaries and relationship with myself and by extension with others has been shaped and opened by the words and exercises within and Terry has a gift in how he can simplify things and give structure and order that has impact with all different personalities and issues that each of us is dealing with.

I’ve become better at articulate and identifying my own wants and needs and in how I set limits and stand up for myself. It has helped me embrace and appreciate what I have and also markedly improved my listening, negotiating, and loving not only those who are in my inside circle but everyone that interact with and have in my daily life.

I love the 5 losing strategies for relationships that are balanced by the 5 winning strategies and find myself checking in with those as I navigate through the variety of adventures that make up my life. I use this with individuals and also with groups - although this is written for the primary relationship in your life what Terry lays out is applicable inside the intensity of any team/ensemble dynamic. Get it, read it, and try it!